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I was thinking this afternoon about some of the weird intersections between friends and acquaintances, how someone from one circle of friends or time of my life knows someone else from a different circle or time.

There was, of course, that time at zzbottom's when wildraven walked into the gathering. I had only known him from hockey games with my high school friend Rob. Seeing him at a gaming event with a mostly poly crowd was completely unexpected, about as far from hockey as you can get.

keyasau3 was telling me a few days ago that she walked into her sister Soma's home and saw a picture of Emily 1 on the wall. I knew that Emily 1 was a department administrator where Soma got her Ph.D., but I had no idea they were actually friends.

I don't remember the context, but last night at dinner Katie mentioned something about her friend H. I listened with the detachment that comes when hearing a story about someone you don't know. Then Katie says to me, "You know, my friend H who you know as A." I had forgotten that Katie and danger_chick were Tae Kwan Do friends. It's funny, 'cause before she left danger_chick had been thinking of introducing me to her friend Emily, seeing as in the past I've had a thing for Emilies. Now I seem to have a thing for Katies. Katie and Emily are friends and have apparently discussed the introduction that wasn't. I find it all very amusing.

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danger_chick
Jan. 23rd, 2006 11:32 pm (UTC)
What story was she telling about me?
spwebdesign
Jan. 24th, 2006 10:43 pm (UTC)
Okay, I've been trying to remember, and I honestly can't. I was listening to a different conversation when she started talking about "my friend H," and it didn't occur to me that she was talking about you, since I don't think of you as H, so I mostly tuned her out and continued listening to the other conversation. She didn't have my attention again until she said to me, "You know, my friend H who you know as A." Ding ding ding! Suddenly I was dialed in, but at that point JC started talking to surrealestate about that whole stupid business between him and you, and we both tuned him out and instead talked briefly about how she had had no idea about you and M. If you're really interested, I can ask surrealestate, JC, or Katie what it was she was saying (or surrealestate can simply respond to this).
danger_chick
Jan. 24th, 2006 11:38 pm (UTC)
instead talked briefly about how she had had no idea about you and M.

OK, that was part of the thing I was trying to figure out. Please tell Katie that she should not discuss my relationship with M with TKD people. If it gets out there, it can get messy in terms of his divorce and his kids. Until he is divorced, we don't need the dojang accidentally informing his children that he has a gf nor do we need him sued for adultry. There are a very small handful of people who know, and they are all very close friends of mine. She should also not discuss this with M. He will not be very happy to find out that she knows that we are dating. It's an uncomfortable situation, I know, but once his divorce goes through then the kids can be told and people can gossip as much as they want.

And feel free to hit JC as hard as possible the next time he discusses his "relationship" with him.
spwebdesign
Jan. 25th, 2006 05:54 am (UTC)
I feel I'm at fault about this, as I am the one who told Katie you two were dating. I will ask her not to discuss this with the other TKD people. If it helps, she has stopped going to the dojang. But I will tell her. I'm sorry if I violated your trust in telling her; I did not realize it was a secret, and I meant no harm.
danger_chick
Jan. 25th, 2006 12:54 pm (UTC)
Hopefully, no harm done. She is probably still friends with TKD people, so please ask her to be descreet. Thanks.
spwebdesign
Jan. 26th, 2006 05:50 am (UTC)
I went out with her tonight and mentioned it to her. She says she completely understands and that it's no problem. The only person she still talks to from TKD is Emily and sometimes Maria. She'll refrain from talking about M.
surrealestate
Jan. 26th, 2006 02:16 am (UTC)
I think I was the one who brought you up, but I'm not sure why. I just know I was saying how I'd met you at SSB and then later met you again at Bitty's, but with a different name. It may have stemmed from recalling how Derek here was called "Straight Derek". I also believe I interrupted JC to make him stop telling his story about you because despite having only him a couple of times before, I'd already heard it.
danger_chick
Jan. 26th, 2006 02:57 am (UTC)
The name this always weird. I've always worked technical jobs as H and writing jobs as A. I once had a birthday party and overheard this conversation:

Friend1: I am here for H's birthday party.
Friend2: H? I am here for A's birthday party.
Fiance of Friend3: A? H? I am here for TotallyWrongName's birthday party.

Thank you for interrupting JC. You know, I believe I might have been dating Paula when I was supposedly dating him. The next time you see him, feel free to tell him I would never date men as boring, dumb, uptight, or as bad looking as him. I have standards, after all.
danger_chick
Jan. 26th, 2006 02:58 am (UTC)
You know, I realize that was a little mean, but I am a big game hunter and JC doesn't have it to bring it for me.
spwebdesign
Jan. 26th, 2006 05:54 am (UTC)
I don't mind. I recognize JC's faults. Sadly, I recognize some of the same faults in myself and just hope I'm clued in enough to reign myself in most of the time. He does have his good qualities; he just sometimes makes them very difficult to see.
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