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Do all y'all (all 4½ of you who read this journal) remember this person? She clearly doesn't know how I feel about her.

She attended both the last and first night of the Spring and Summer Opera Workshop performances, respectively, but left immediately after the performances, before I'd had a chance to acknowledge her. On each occasion I felt that the least I could do, since she had made the effort to come, was ask the following day at work how she'd enjoyed the performances and thank her for coming.

Clearly, she got the wrong impression. I received an e-mail from her yesterday. The subject line read "question" and the body simply contained the following: "Would you like to go out for an event?" Completely open-ended, no specificity as to the event or the time and place. I could, naturally, assume only one thing, that she wanted to go on a date with me and that the details of this "event" were secondary. Ick.

But I cannot, as much as I may like to, simply reply, "Ick. No." As much as I dislike this person, I am not in the business of purposefully hurting other people's feelings. And simply ignoring the e-mail would be equally rude. I finally replied with the following message: "Thank you, but no. As you know, I am extremely busy with my singing and web design responsibilities, and the occasional night or day off I like to spend with my close friends (two of whom are leaving the area in the fall) and my girlfriend." I hope this got the point across without being rude or insensitive.

I told ME about this last night on our second date. "I hope you don't mind about the 'girlfriend' bit," I quipped, "but I felt the situation justified the exaggeration." "You could have cancelled," she joked, "really, I wouldn't have minded." Oh, no, no... ME's not getting rid of me that easily!

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fj
Jun. 26th, 2004 05:55 pm (UTC)
Gawd, social situations like that give me nightmares. You handled it so well.
sonata960
Jun. 27th, 2004 06:53 am (UTC)
That sounds like a very diplomatic way to say "ick, no". Hopefully she takes it gracefully.
am0
Jun. 27th, 2004 11:58 am (UTC)
I would have been blunter. But I lack social grace and haven't time enough left in this world to cultivate any.
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