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So, I learned a lesson: when I'm feeling the way I was last night, I should stay the hell away from my laptop! I know I've offended a few people, probably more than have bothered to comment, with my rant. I should have kept my thoughts to myself, or at least filtered them heavily. I could always try to duck responsibility by blaming the beer, but that's wrong: all the beer did was loosen my metaphorical tongue a bit and, alcohol or not, it was ultimately my choice to post; now I must live with the consequences.

I apologize to anyone offended by yesterday's tirades. I have gone ahead and friends-locked both offending posts to try to contain the damage, though the damage has already been done.

If it makes anyone feel better, I am suffering my pennance this morning in the form of a nice hangover headache.


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Jan. 25th, 2006 03:24 pm (UTC)
Bah on lj-naysayers.

I don't know many people who don't occasionally, in their minds, think and say things about people that they probably don't *really truly* feel and that even if they did, they'd never say out loud. Trouble with LJ is that you get to sit there and type away all those things that you are thinking.

I wish people would take "rants" on LJ as they are meant to be. I always think they are someone going "Fuck, this sucks, everything sucks, he/she/it sucks, I'm right, everyone's wrong, fuck it all, rant, rant, rantrantrant" and hoping for a little bit of "ooo, hey, sorry it sucks, wanna talk about it?" I think the goal of a rant is to get it out in a nice violent way and hopefully have someone show you some support. Maybe not for what you've written, but for the fact that you're going through tough shit and you're pissed about it.

But no. Instead of saying something nice and vaguely supportive of your emotions, 99% of the time people get all "you're an immature little poopoo head for posting that rant and I'm unfriending you know because of it because I can't be an LJ friend with such a huge drama whore like you" and so forth and so on.

Livejournal is the id set free sometimes and I think readers of journals need to realize that. Ranting does not equal drama. It's just ranting. Just listen to rants and offer a pat on the back and REMEMBER that the person you are reading, who you probably know and like, is really a rational human being and needs to just get out the venom before being able to look at things objectively sometimes.

Jan. 25th, 2006 04:10 pm (UTC)
I agree. Sometimes LJ can be used for serious purposes but the rants should always be taken with a grain of salt. It's just hard to remember that.

Jan. 25th, 2006 04:58 pm (UTC)
Ranting serves a serious purpose. If you're frustrated and need that outlet, then what was ranted needed to be said. But perhaps it didn't need to be said to everybody.

The old axiom for message board ranty rants is "Write it today, post it tomorrow." Many a diplomatic disaster has been averted because someone followed this. I've dodged several bullets that way. Other times I've plowed right along and let the fruits of the Id stay where they've landed, and ... yeah. Satisfying and bomb-dropping.

But I often try to exercise discretion when I need to rant. I write down a buncha shit, save it as Private so only I get to see it, and sleep on it (provided I can sleep.) That way the act of writing it all has served its purpose. I got that rant out of my system, I said what I needed to say at that time, I was able to put into words what was bothering me so, and I banged my hands on the keyboard a few times too for the kinetic catharsis of it all. After several hours have gone by and things have cooled down I can go back and look at it, and decide if A. it's worth keeping and B. it's worth sharing with others.

Usually B. only applies if it turns out to be funny. But frustration ain't funny. Oh, man. I feel for ya.
Jan. 25th, 2006 11:07 pm (UTC)
I am suffering my pennance this morning in the form of a nice hangover headache.

Next time use this.
Jan. 26th, 2006 03:11 am (UTC)
You know, I could have used that about 7 years ago.
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